Ever felt trapped by your own fear or perceived limitations? Unearth the power of ditching those constraints and embracing a growth mindset in this episode, where you get to listen to my keynote from FEMPOWERED.
Raised in a staunch Christian Southern household, my journey meant wrestling with fear, overcoming insecurity, and recognizing the counterproductive nature of an all-or-nothing mentality. Ultimately, it was a matter of pushing versus forcing, discovering the sweet spot of healthy progress, and laying a foundation in truth.
Imagine a future where you're not just surviving, but thriving. Isn't it time you gave yourself permission to dream, to want, to reach for more? By connecting with your higher self, your inner-admiral, you can tap into potential you didn't even know existed. Explore techniques to align your beliefs, goals, and action steps, and learn to recognize the sneaky 'shoulds' that can mislead you off your path. In this journey, your future self becomes your guide, your inspiration, and your blueprint.
Before we wrap up, consider this: what's one step you could take towards that future, right now? It doesn’t need to be a leap, even a tiny step in the right direction can start a domino effect. If you're feeling the pull of transformation, ready to step into a more empowered version of yourself, consider signing up for a free discovery call at nandikamille.com. Let's take that step together, let's empower each other on this journey to a life we truly desire.
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Ever felt trapped by your own fear or perceived limitations? Unearth the power of ditching those constraints and embracing a growth mindset in this episode, where you get to listen to my keynote from FEMPOWERED.
Raised in a staunch Christian Southern household, my journey meant wrestling with fear, overcoming insecurity, and recognizing the counterproductive nature of an all-or-nothing mentality. Ultimately, it was a matter of pushing versus forcing, discovering the sweet spot of healthy progress, and laying a foundation in truth.
Imagine a future where you're not just surviving, but thriving. Isn't it time you gave yourself permission to dream, to want, to reach for more? By connecting with your higher self, your inner-admiral, you can tap into potential you didn't even know existed. Explore techniques to align your beliefs, goals, and action steps, and learn to recognize the sneaky 'shoulds' that can mislead you off your path. In this journey, your future self becomes your guide, your inspiration, and your blueprint.
Before we wrap up, consider this: what's one step you could take towards that future, right now? It doesn’t need to be a leap, even a tiny step in the right direction can start a domino effect. If you're feeling the pull of transformation, ready to step into a more empowered version of yourself, consider signing up for a free discovery call at nandikamille.com. Let's take that step together, let's empower each other on this journey to a life we truly desire.
ENJOY THE PODCAST? Leave us a 5-star review so more people can find us!
Hi, friends, and welcome to Believe Like a Boss. I'm your host, life Coach, nandu Kamil. Join me as I teach you how to smash your goals and expand the possibility of your life through mindset management, spiritual alignment and authentic action. I'll teach you how to create what I like to call a life of thrive, with ease and authenticity. It's time to play with what's possible. Are you ready? Let's go? Hello, hello, hello, my friends, and welcome back to another episode of Bulldog.
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Believe Like a Boss. I'm your host, life Coach Nandu Kamil, and this week, my friends. I have a very special treat for you. I'm so grateful that my beautiful, wonderful, support of husband not only came to watch me speak the other day. It was a part of the two-day event by Samantha Joy Femm Powered, wonderful, powerful event. Women came from all over the country to be there. Highly recommend you check her out. It will be in the show notes as well. I won the speaker contest, which was a wonderful privilege. I don't know how many people I was up against, but I have to say this While I was there, there were at least two women that came up to me. I told me that they had also entered into the speaker contest and they came up with so much love and they congratulated me for winning. That's just like a snippet of the camaraderie and the support that I felt at this two-day event. It was wonderful, tyler, he went to go and see me speak and he recorded it.
Speaker 1:
This week, my friends, our podcast episode I'm so excited is my talk. Shooting on Yourself. I am going to give a little bit of a warning, though. I'm a person that likes to listen to my podcast episodes on 1.2, so I actually listen to most of my podcast episodes not my own, but just when I'm listening to podcasts in the world. How to faster speed? I don't know whether or not that's a great habit, but it is the speed at which I listen to most of my episodes, if you are also a person that does that.
Speaker 1:
The one critique that I've gotten so far from my talk was that at some point I spoke really fast. To be honest, I did that on purpose, because I had 20 minutes. A lot of the speakers had 45 minutes and I had 20 as a contest winner. That was the allotted time. I'm a talker. I have this wonderful podcast. I'm used to speaking. I knew that for me, not as much time as I would have liked to have gotten my message across, but I did the best with the time that I had. I do want to give that disclaimer. If you listen to podcasts on a higher speed, you might want to bring it down to a one when this episode starts, because that was the one critique that I spoke really fast.
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I hope that you enjoy it. Again, it is shooting on yourself. If you want the slides to this speech I suppose this keynote send me an email. Hello at nondikamillecom. In the subject Put slides. I don't know what you want. I'll go ahead and send you my slides so you can go ahead and follow along that way as well. All right, my friends, I hope you enjoy this episode. I hope that you enjoy my talk. Shooting On Yourself.
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I'll give her a heads up. Yes, okay, who's next? Nadi is a multi-cashman life coach who loves helping other multi-cashmen executive and entrepreneurial women thrive. Love that Through various holistic modalities, nadi helps her clients transform their lives by applying practical neuroscience, mindfulness and positive psychology with aligned actions. Sign me up for that as a personal coach, community builder and live events and podcast hosts of the week. Like a boss, check out her podcast. Please follow, subscribe, share and download. Nadi is on a mission to help women help themselves, which I love.
Speaker 2:
We're not doing the co-dependent thing anymore. We're not doing people pleasing no, we're not doing that so they can transform their lives and create the results they truly desire in their life bank account, in relationships. That's good stuff. Thank you for being so excited for this.
Speaker 1:
Can we give a round of applause to the audience? Thank you, you guys. Not too late. We committed to showing up. That's a big deal. You didn't have to be here, you didn't have to buy the ticket, you didn't have to get in your car.
Speaker 2:
You could have bought the ticket and be like, uh-uh, I'm not going there.
Speaker 1:
You won't be around this late, will you? I'm an introvert. I'm an introvert. I took a test and the test told me I'm both, and it's sometimes we keep in the car like I'm going to go.
Speaker 2:
I'm going to go on the internet, so we talk ourselves out with you guys.
Speaker 1:
You showed up here today, so do want to give a round of applause for the audience. We're waiting here, we're taking the notes, we're meditating, we're getting uncomfortable, we're showing up. So what I'm talking about today? I'm talking about shooting on yourself, which?
Speaker 1:
I love that Rachel said that the other day Shooting Because it feels like what it sounds like Shooting. It sounds like shooting right the first time. Growing up very Christian Southern household, my dad was in the military, so maybe moved around every four years of my life and we were having a lot of diversity in my dad's and the first time I said shooting on yourself, somebody was like not, I was like I said shooting, but the reality is is it feels like what it sounds like and that's what's so beautiful about it, but like you're shitting on yourself, so that's what we're going to talk about today.
Speaker 1:
And I love that when I was talking to Samantha, it's so great cool to be here. When she told me that I had won the speaker contest, she said you're going to be the closer you're going to be at the end of the day, Day two you get 20 minutes.
Speaker 2:
Okay, you got 20 minutes.
Speaker 1:
First of all, I'm a talker, so I was like, hey, a lot of people still live in this life of space and I love that. I'm really one for me, because I love her interview, because I love following them. But then I was like this is perfect when we go to conferences, when we go to events like this I'm so inspired.
Speaker 1:
It is so much fun, so much for me to be around people and to be inspired to hear about the stories, to see the podcast, to see if she has the speed of Paul or if she wants to be on the show she has the speed of Paul. Or if she wrote that book. She did that in pain. It's so cool. Then we go home, like Angelice came to go to her house Shit, we're going to start Go to do. I should be there. I should already have a podcast. I should already have a podcast. I should already have 3,000 dollars. Fuck, this going on behind, right or it's just me, my brain is actually on it, right and we shoot all over ourselves, all over, and it defeats the purpose of what we want. So we're going to have into that Before we have into that. I love those stories on today. So I'm going to tell you a little bit about this, but I'm really going to tell you a little bit more about my story.
Speaker 1:
Some of the mindfulness-based life goes from meaning. My running definition of mindfulness is awareness without judgment. So being aware of how you feel, being aware of what you're thinking, being aware of the temperature of your body without judging Right. So think I'm sad. I'm going to say sad, I'm sad, but not going down the right hole. Oh, that's something wrong with the handy-doublet right. So that's why I started. It's my space building Up here, it's the place I started at.
Speaker 1:
FAU, florida, lansing and Roosevelt. So did you go to? Oh my gosh, small world. There's a lot of people in that program, so it's in Boca Raton. Boca Raton means rat's mouth, which is really fun for you today. It is a beautiful place, gorgeous cars and equipment, but it literally means rat's mouth.
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And so when I went to college there, I needed a job first year there.
Speaker 1:
No freshman. In Florida you have choosy, it's hot and hot, that's all you get hot and hot. I said, hey, who wants to work outside? I'm a dumb butt, that's it. I would love to work outside in the place where we have hot and hotter, but I loved it. I ended up working on the Robshawch-Mars. It was a lay master which reduced the people up and down the.
Speaker 1:
Robshawch-Mars wall and then from there I ended up being a facilitator and as a facilitator we were working with groups ESPN, john Hughes. But what I fell in love with the homes I worked on in choosy, it's halfway homes, Small groups of men and women that were coming in 18 to 25 years old talking about substance abuse, talking about trauma talking about communication, and I did exercises with them.
Speaker 1:
One of them was called consensus group consensus and it had five ropes all tied together, but only one rope would go through all of them. So how about the ropes on the ground? Is that right Now a group who now got to stand around? I want you to look at this rope, this series of ropes, and together you need to decide which rope goes through all of them. You can't touch it, you can't do anything, you just walk around with it. They converse and then they decide it's this rope. Sometimes they get it, sometimes they wouldn't. They'd pull up the rope, sometimes they would fall out and none of them would be connected. They'd be wrong. Sometimes they'd get it right. It wasn't about getting it right, it was about having the conversation, and that's what I fell in love with. It was about what made you think that it was that rope. Did you feel like you spoke up in that conversation?
Speaker 1:
Did you have something to say in that group and did you say it and I was like, wow, this is cool. I'm not learning this in my condition. So that's how I got started. I am now here in Colorado, my lovely husband. We just got married about a year ago, in September. I'm really grateful to him. So today we're gonna talk about what it means to shoot on yourself, understanding a role and the role of, rather, that scarcity plays in our mentality. I just bought it and it changed it, so I wanna give you some good data, so what?
Speaker 1:
it means to shoot on yourself. It's my working definition. The first one says to shoot on yourself Something means to make yourself wrong without reason or question, in a way that does not serve you. But, more importantly, in the second, to operate out of lack, judgment, shaming or guilt as a form of encouragement. You should have written that blog poster in. You should have that podcast in. You should have posted five times a week. It comes from a place of love, because your higher self wants to be on stage, wants to have a podcast that has 10,000 hours, wants to just feel those feelings. And so then you shoot on ourselves. We do it.
Speaker 1:
The brain looks a little hackier and our other students have mentioned this as well. Your brain's just trying to protect you. Your brain is always just trying to protect you. Protect you from looking stupid, protect you from being behind, protect you from dying right.
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But because we live in this modern day and age, before it was like I need to protect you from hate. We need connection, because if I'm not connected to my people, I don't get resources. We all would activate this right. I'm not connected to the tribe, I don't have resources, I don't have water, I don't have food. That is not the case today. We still operate that way. We're afraid to risk relationships because I'm gonna be unsafe if I'm no longer connected to this tribe. It feels really, truly scary. I won't be safe, I can't, I can't right. It's always come from a piece of the brain with monster protection. But what we start to notice and what we can do with mindfulness is notice the sentences in our brain and check in. This thought that's trying to protect me isn't serving me, or is it not? Is it pushing me towards my goal or is it giving me some hope? One of my hacks that I like to use is as an expanded you contract.
Speaker 1:
If you shouldn't end yourself here contracting. It feels heavy, you feel the pressure. It doesn't feel that something in your knower gets tight. You shouldn't write the love posts Versus I want to. I want to write the love posts, I want to show up online. There's a difference in that energy to expand towards your contract.
Speaker 2:
So I have some examples here.
Speaker 1:
I should have done more work right, you're gonna hear these things and if you think of shoulds while I'm working, just please write them down, get them out of your head and onto that piece of paper so you can look at it and investigate it. So how do we know, maybe like, ah, I don't know, I don't know, I'm doing it. If you're feeling stuck right, if you feel like I've been in a hands room and the same thing again and again and again and again, broken to pieces beautifully, the other day, you might have gotten success. If you're somebody else's storyline, you're like why are there things that I want Check in? Are you showing up the way that you actually want to, or are you showing up in a way that you think will create success because you've seen somebody else do it?
Speaker 1:
Your brain is always collecting evidence, so it makes sense that I saw that girl do that thing and she achieved success. As I see success, therefore, I must need to do that same thing. I see her posting every single day and she has 5,000, whatever followers, 500,000 followers, whatever the reverse. Great, I get too excited.
Speaker 1:
Right your brain then says, okay, well, she posted it. Maybe I should have said that Check in, is it a should or is it a want, if you're getting the same results and they're not the results that you want and it's been a lot of time. Check in Are you operating out of should? Are you operating out of abundance? Are you both out of excitement?
Speaker 2:
The second one here is it allows fear to run the show.
Speaker 1:
When we're shooting on ourselves, fear is running the show. We're showing up from a place of fear. I should, I should. I should be afraid that if I don't, I won't get what I want. I'm afraid that if I don't post everything, I won't grow. I'm afraid that if I don't have the podcast, nobody will ever know me, I'm afraid that, if I never speak on a stage, I'll never be famous.
Speaker 1:
I'll never get the back. Look, whatever it is. Maybe the room does that. So check it. Are you sure about a fear? And again, if you know by how you feel you're gonna show them about a fear when you're contracting the smoke with some pressure Versus, if we're sure, not out of love, but you've posted it, see the fear of love. If you're sure about love, you know it. Your last, your shoulder is actually the last make your body feel.
Speaker 1:
Third, one Feels horrible in the body. You know that you're showing up in a place of shooting. You don't feel good, right? Checking with your physical body. Is your heart beating really fast? Every single time? You need a tour, you have to speak to people, right? Do you feel sick? Every single time you're about to do that one thing? Check in. Maybe that one thing is not in alignment for you. Often in this room we love to push our way through, so when you see yourself sad, that right, I can do it, I can do it, it's fine. No pain, no gain, right, but check in. There's a level of lifting weights when you go to the gym. There's a level of pain that you get from lifting weights. But that pain is in alignment, right, I've chosen to lift this weight Versus forcing yourself. That's a different kind of pain that's not in alignment for you. So your body will let you know and we'll get you trust your body.
Speaker 1:
The last one there is a sprint or all or nothing mentality. If you're operating on a chute, you're likely in an all or nothing. After I look at the house, I give this to myself. I hear the author. I say I wrote my book in three weeks. I said, okay, I've wrote my book in three weeks. But I catch myself right Because my brain will do I have to write the whole book in three weeks and nothing. It will do that after in the whole corporate right now, or nothing. I've done it with a retreat too. I'm just like, oh, I should write it down. I pour a little puss with them. I have all the ideas all the time. I wanna do all the things. There's nothing wrong with?
Speaker 1:
having all these ideas, but check in that all, or nothing. Mentality says if I can't do it all right now, I'm not gonna do it all.
Speaker 2:
That's putting it up. I'll put it off.
Speaker 1:
I can't do it all right now, so I can't do it all, check it out right, break it down. So here's some more examples of those here. I'm not like being challenged. I laughed at this one earlier when I was reading it back to me. I was like that's not what my brain says. My brain says fuck, this is hard.
Speaker 2:
Well, what is your?
Speaker 1:
brain saying it's the end of the scare mentality. I don't think I'm either good at it or not. I haven't figured out how to sell at that level, so I'm never gonna figure it out. Not true, right? Whether when other bloggers are successful, that means there's less for me. Check in, there's not enough money and a lot of opportunities to go around. I have all the answers. It has to be perfect before I post it.
Speaker 1:
Those are just examples of what we're gonna lack in that scare state mentality. The antidote is to cultivate a growth mindset. I say cultivate because it takes practice, just like learning language or an instrument. It takes practice to think, new thoughts, to rewire your brain. That's what you're doing to rewire the regular pathways?
Speaker 1:
Think about it as a highway, driving down a highway, you have construction going on on a highway. That's what's happening when you're rewiring your brain. What happens? You go from a five or two lane highway and they're gonna go down to five. Goes down to what One before it goes out to five? Same thing happens in your brain. You've been thinking I don't like myself. I don't like myself and you come to this conference with I'm gonna work on loving myself. I love myself and that thought feels far and heavy, but it's okay. That is the process, that's the construction. You're gonna go down one lane and you're gonna go crazy for a second before it goes right into open up. Give yourself that time, that space to practice the thoughts on purpose. I love myself. I think it is possible. I might not have written a book this year, but it doesn't mean that it's not possible. If you do that, sure Not put it off till next year. I think it will be published next year To start working on it. Right now I'm checking Benefits of having a growth mindset.
Speaker 1:
You're less likely to venture your goals right when we quit. When we quit now, it's when we're in that lab.
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We're not. Scarcity, you create intentions. That allows for flexibility is so important. See, flexible, they're both. They love the graphic that she had earlier with one side and the other and with more all the way to get there. This is the reality of it and if we're shooting, it should be perfect. I should be there, I should be there. It's just tight and the perfectionism allows. It's okay if you work out the words. Right, shake it off, it's okay, right. Pairing with your values. Having a growth mindset helps you establish a rooted foundation.
Speaker 1:
Rooted in your truth, your values. What do you value?
Speaker 2:
I want everybody to just pause for a second.
Speaker 1:
I value truth. I value aligned friendships. I value having a fat family count. I value connected friendships. What do you value? Check it Right. When we show up in a limelight, when their values begins to grow, they should use. I love connected relationships, so why am I going to do an alignment for that versus I should have a really good food friends, because they told me about this, so help them. I need to, okay, right, check it. Take a deep breath.
Speaker 2:
It's a joke for success. Acting as your mental armor when adversity hits. Kind of well adversity happens.
Speaker 1:
All of us have a story in here. You're just gonna wonder. That's why I love what I do, because I get to ask the question, how are you? And I get the real answer not fine, I get what's actually going on. So our example of a growth mindset I can learn new things. This is hard now, but I'll play it. It's okay that it's hard. You can well. I love kids. You ever go to skating rink. You have kids with them. That's going around. They fall every five seconds. Come everybody. Good luck Going around, falling around, get back up. Yeah, they're fine, they bounce right back up. Why don't you do that as adults Falling around, light up the light, say, oh, I'm out, I'm inside bad and it's gonna take me further to get back up. I should've learned this already. I'm behind, just get back up. Just get back up. The rest of it is drama. Right, it's just drama all the rest of it. I love this quote. They speak inputs and the outputs take place themselves.
Speaker 2:
This is what I'm talking about when I'm talking about mindfulness.
Speaker 1:
Awareness without judgment Starts to be a little bit more aware of what you're already thinking. Can I change what you're thinking? If you do not know what you're thinking, and what can help you guide your development, even if it's how you're feeling truly, those two things are connected.
Speaker 2:
I've fallen for lots of love that's something that are early to circumstances.
Speaker 1:
Circumstances are the events and things in the world the Japanese, the circumstances, the podium. There's things we have thoughts about these circumstances that influence our feelings, our, feelings and influence our actions.
Speaker 1:
Our actions influence our results. So that's why it comes all of that. How are you thinking about that thing? How are you thinking about yourself? How are you thinking about your goals? I wanna be. This is an example. I was like I wanna be a national brand ambassador. This is a few years ago. I wanna be a national brand ambassador, I wanna get paid to wear clothes and that's basically it. That's my goal. Didn't know how, had no idea how, and I just started with okay well, I think influencers post online, I'm just gonna say, or they post it throughout the day.
Speaker 1:
so I did that over time and then one day they already reached out to me. Everybody was a national brand and they said hey, don't even want to have you be a part of this. Had I not believed that it was possible for me to do it, I wouldn't have shown up.
Speaker 2:
I didn't know what the brand was.
Speaker 1:
I had never even heard of every honestly, when they reached out to me to Google them. But I had to believe that it was possible. I had to have the vision it is possible for me to get paid to wear clothes. I have no evidence of this. I have no friends that have done this. I just want this. I just want this. Can I look at it Like what do you want? What do you want? I wanna write a thing about that. What do you really want? Write it down what do you really want and do you believe you can have it? It's what it comes to. That's what all these speakers have been talking about.
Speaker 1:
What do you want? I want to feel happy. I want to feel joy. I want to have that big account. I want to connect to friendship. I want to have podcasts. I want to set up stages. I want to wear fancy outfits. I want to have my tummy out. I want to love myself. What do you want? What do you want? Ask yourself that Every day, get more of your clear on it and then ask yourself do I believe that I can have it? And that's where we get to start to make the inputs.
Speaker 2:
That's where we start to notice. I really I noticed this the other day for myself. Tyler and I wanna live in.
Speaker 1:
Boulder, and recently I was looking through a magazine and there's a woman who's in a? House that's in a big building. She's pregnant and gosh, I never thought about it. I don't believe I'm in Boulder, and every time there was pot you hear about borders and those so the time has to be with it.
Speaker 1:
You have to put the stretch right. So why not? Why not? Why can't I Right? It can't clear? And then start to think the thoughts that are in alignment with the version of you that already has it Go to that future version of you. Ask him to send that higher version of you, the version of you that has already been here, that has been on the stage, that has done the podcast, that has met the love of their life. What are you thinking at that place that is different than how you're thinking that? Those are the inputs. Start checking in on that and again, how you know you are out of alignment is how you feel If you are
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walking through the day, feeling depressed, anxious, low. I'm not saying that's about a wrong. I have anxiety and depression. I view it every day, but it's not like how am I walking back? Right, you do it every day, but it's about noticing that it comes up. What are they saying? Not living in a fear of it right For you? And is your spiritual classroom here, or is your spiritual classroom here? Where are you energetically Check in? And the version of yourself that is here, that is standing proud that, even if they don't, have exactly what they want.
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Know that they're gonna have exactly what they want. What are they thinking? How are they showing up? That is different than how you're showing up right now, and this is not from a should place.
Speaker 1:
This is from how I want to. This is one of my favorite quotes. I don't know the author, but I've used it for years. Decide on your human life and say no to anything that does not lie. Decide you get to choose. And what's beautiful about, but I'm really sad. It's just like going down the road and trying things. You figure out as you go, you learn so much as you go and then it gets fine tuned. It gets fine tuned a little bit more in every single step. You get a little bit more information that will be fine tuned in that decision.
Speaker 1:
Going to the side that whenever you're gonna build a home in Boulder I have no evidence of that that home will be at least three billion dollars a month. I don't know where you're going right now. That's okay. I know it's going to happen. I'm so excited about it Because I know there's really to it and I'm thinking in line with the version of me that has it. It's like the first building that I was in the room. I can't wait. It's gonna be beautiful, it's gonna be great. My job is to stick in line with that version of myself and take one step at a time. Whatever that looks like to me, whatever that looks like to you. I had a few things that I was writing down. These were the slides, but as all the speakers were talking, I have 15 seconds. I'm gonna give you a few things to help you out with this.
Speaker 2:
Talk to your higher self, who already has something Just said that, but the other thing that's a lot of fun is talking to your inner-admiral and use it interchangeably.
Speaker 1:
Sometimes it's your higher self, sometimes you're inner-admiral, because your inner-admiral gives you permission to do things that your present self doesn't, or it's like go talk to her. What do we do, your inner-admiral? She's like bitch. It's all me, though. That's my name, she is ratchet.
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And I love cars.
Speaker 1:
I love that noise. We ain't got time for that shit. Get it together. This is what we're doing, right Checking the bad version of yourself. That's that version of yourself. What do we need to know? We need that it's possible for you to have it. That's the key. That's what I'm trying to find. That's the goal.
Speaker 1:
Believe, like what? If you don't believe you can have it, you're not going to have it. Nobody's going to believe for you. You have to believe for yourself. Nobody can believe you, and she I mean they could. Samirka believed in me, but if I didn't, this would be a very different talk. I wouldn't have even submitted it. If she could believe me, all that she wants, I'd have to believe myself. I'm going to show up here for a new thing. Do you believe in yourself? Do you believe in your dream? Are you waiting on somebody else to blame you, to give you evidence? What do you think you saw? It's so shooting on yourself. I should be there. What do you want and do you believe you can have it? Breathe in, breathe out and I'm going to be kicked out. I told you 20 minutes, but not now. Write down your shoulds Every time you notice that, on a daily basis. If you can write down your shoulds, all those things that come up, then check in what do I want?
Speaker 2:
Sometimes I want shows up versus a show. If I did that, when I was scrolling through Instagram I saw the five houses and said, oh, I should have a five house and I checked in.
Speaker 1:
Do I want it? Do I actually want this? Actually I do. I want to have a five house Check in and, if you believe, you can have what you want and have two questions for you.
Speaker 2:
What does that?
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version of yourself say to themselves Go to that version of yourself, use your life style. What is she doing when she walks down the street? When she wakes up in the morning, where her morning, when she gets that future version of yourself, write those things down and then what is the next step? Before you leave this room, please decide on one next step that you're once taking before you leave this conference, whether it's I'm going to look in the mirror and tell myself I love myself, or I'm going to start the new Instagram, whatever it is. Send out one thing, one thing that you're running into when you leave From a place that I want to, and because I have to and because it meant to me I should, because I want to. It's based on my heart and I believe that's possible. Thank you guys so much. Woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo, woo Woo.
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